An archive of the writings of Assanova
Originally posted on: Jul 20, 2011.
We all know that women blow out men when they don’t like what they see, but what about when a woman gives a guy the chance to talk to her and then blows him out or flakes on him? What exactly is he doing wrong? Men that are use to being around women and having sex don’t make this mistake, but guys who aren’t do it all of the time. What mistake do they make? They try to do too much during their initial interactions with women.
Men trying to do too much is probably my biggest gripe with game as it is taught today. Men approach these women, try to prove their worth, try to impress, and just look like idiots that never get laid. Guys who are naturally attracting women don’t do any of that. They simply focus on having natural conversations with women and take it from there.
Gamers who aren’t naturals jump the shark when they use game, hence why they get blown out so much and get so many flakey women. Before girls even get the chance to get comfortable talking to them, these guys say things that are too corny, too sexual, too try hard, or too insulting. And what that does, is kill any and all attraction, if there was even any in the first place.
What these guys should be doing is letting women get comfortable talking to them first. This means cutting out all of the gamey non-sense, and focusing on just having natural conversations with women. If a woman just feels really comfortable talking to a guy, and he doesn’t stick his foot in his mouth, then chances are, she’s going to be comfortable enough to see him again.
Get it through your head that if a girl doesn’t immediately start ignoring you when you approach her, then she obviously must like something about you already. You already have her in your pocket. All that you gotta do is show her that you are capable of having a decent conversation without saying anything to put her off. Keep your conversations vanilla, let your confidence and appearances impress her, and let her get the chance to feel you out.
And for the record, I don’t do a lot of the stuff I did for a few years. I don’t try to be funny, impress, be too sexual, etc. I simply focus on having natural conversations and letting my confidence and appearances do the work for me.