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How Minorities Make Things Harder

Originally posted on: Feb 10th, 2012.

I think there are certain topics of attraction that people just don’t want to touch. If a white player writes a post like this, then I think that he would just get labeled a racist, and no one would take what he says to heart. And I think that minority players avoid writing about it because either they are ignorant to it, or they just don’t want to believe it; they just don’t want to bring it to light.

I’ve been in this game for years, and throughout those years, I’ve had several different social experiences. I want to talk about what it’s like hanging out with white players, what it’s like hanging out with minority players, and how it affects my opportunities with non-minority women. For the most part, minorities fall into one of two camps: the camp of being the only minority with several white friends, or being one of many minorities who hang out, and game women together. I’ve had the opportunity to dabble in both groups.

We all like to joke about being the token minority, and how if there is more than one, then the other needs to call the agency. Well, there is some truth to it. If you are a minority who games with other minorities, the game becomes infinitely more difficult for you. When I game with white wingmen, the game just becomes so much easier. It’s almost as if I don’t even have to try with women. They swarm me, and I always do better than the white guys I’m with, no matter how attractive they are.

However, when I game with other minorities, unless I approach alone, and don’t introduce my minority friends, it is incredibly hard to hook women. The only time women even hook when I’m with minority wingmen, is if they are into minorities; as in they don’t like white guys. I’ve even had a few instances where I’d be invited somewhere, and women would blatantly tell my minority wingman that he couldn’t come. It’s as if they said “We can accept one of you, but not more than that.”, as politely as they could.

Why are people that way? I could go on and on, but in a nutshell, it’s just easier for white people to accept one minority than it is to accept a group of them. More than one new minority just makes them feel too uncomfortable. And even if they do accept your friend, they don’t want to deal with the awkwardness of having more than one minority around. Again, when you’ve been around long enough, you just notice things like that.

If you are a minority, should you give-up your minority wingmen? I don’t know. What I will say, though, is that it is incredibly difficult for white women, and men alike, to accept more than one minority at a time. There’s a good chance that if you are a minority experiencing a lot of difficulty with women, that it has nothing to do with game, and everything to do with who you are choosing to hang around. The game is just easier if you game with guys who aren’t also minorities. Take it for what you will.

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