An archive of the writings of Assanova
Originally posted on: Jan 20th, 2012.
I was reading this post, which led me to want to write about my stint being unemployed. I was unemployed for nearly two years, and the only thing keeping me afloat was the money that I was making as a player. Once I finally found steady employment, it took me over a year to recover from the damage that had been done. Being unemployed was probably the most humiliating, and degrading, time period of my life.
I know what’s going through your head because I’ve been there. Sooner or later, you become incredibly depressed, and eventually, you start to think about every reason why you’re still unemployed. I’m not here to drag anyone through the mud, or kick anyone while they are down, but chances are, you’re not unemployed because of low-income workers. You’re unemployed because you don’t want to take an absolute sh*t job. Not a somewhat comfortable low-paying job, but an absolute sh*t job.
When I finally found a job, it was a job doing back-breaking work, and I hated every single second of it. It was painful, tiring, the pay was absolute sh*t, it was embarrassing, and I got treated like I was worthless. But do you know what that does to you? It humbles you. You appreciate the experience. Knowing that you’ve hit absolute rock bottom and survived, grinding it out, not only makes you feel like a real living, breathing, man, but it makes you feel like you can survive anything.
Do you know what else it teaches you? It teaches you to see yourself at face value. Too many guys get these easy college degrees, thinking that it entitles them to a good job, when the truth is, it doesn’t. Without the right connections and luck, most degrees are completely useless. You can’t bank on finding a good job, or even a decent job, with a general education type of degree. If you can’t make economic sense to employers with your degree, then it is useless.
When you look at yourself at face value, instead of the way you want people to perceive your value, hoping for some kind of miracle career, you reach a moment of truth. You realize that you aren’t as great as you thought you were. And when you reach that point, it is incredibly humbling. You stop thinking of reasons why employers should hire you, and you start to think about what will actually make you hirable.
What will make you hirable? Just take one look at any jobs website. You may not like what you see, or the reality of what you’ll have to do, but the answer is there.