An archive of the writings of Assanova
Originally posted on: Feb 16th, 2012.
I’ve been noticing that some of you have been in this game for years, and although you’ve seen that initial burst in improvement, most of you have hit a brick wall. You’re basically getting nowhere no matter what you do; your game has stalled. What exactly is the problem?
I’ll tell you a little story about my first year in college. A girl asked me out to her sorority formal in spite of barely knowing me. When I asked her why she didn’t just ask one of the other guys in the loose social circle that we shared, she stated quite bluntly: you are the only guy that isn’t a loser. I never gave it much thought at the time, but it had huge implications. Through her, I gained access to the frat life, and countless sorority girls.
Why do I tell you this story? I tell you because the women you date, and your social life, are heavily interconnected. And what I feel is happening to a lot of you, is that you’re not gaining access to a much better social life, because you refuse to let go of the guys you met in the seduction community. You came into this game with a group of guys who more or less had social and attraction problems, and have never let go of them.
The problem with being associated with guys who have those issues, is that some will actually improve dramatically, while others will remain the same as they’ve always been: social outcasts. A higher class of women and friends are willing to accept the new you, but they aren’t willing to accept the friends that you came into this game with, because they haven’t quite stepped up to the plate. And in turn, you lose your chance to move up the social hierarchy.
This is one of those things that you have to give serious thought to if you’ve hit a wall with women and your social life. In order for you to move-up, you may have to leave behind a lot of the guys that you came into this game with. If you really want to move-up socially, then there’s a price that you have to pay. Will you hold on to what’s holding you back, or will you pay the price by letting it go?