An archive of the writings of Assanova
Originally posted on: Feb 22nd, 2012.
Countless men remain stuck, whether it’s with women, their career, goals, or whatever, and they never quite understand why. Focusing on women in particular, they fail to see the difference between what really works, and what they want to work. They become attached to who they are, and the culture surrounding picking-up women, so they really don’t care about what really works, simply because it means changing who they are, and it isn’t as glamorous as all of the theories that come with the culture.
When guys come to me asking what they should do with women, they’re really not trying to hear what I have to say, because it isn’t glamorous. They think that there just has to be more to it. However, I’ve been in and out of the dating pool for years, and I have to say that the number of women you date is directly correlated with how aggressive you are about it.
Now I didn’t say that it is glamorous, or that it’s going to make you the favorite guy in the room, but it does get you better results than almost any other piece of advice out there. And I think that’s what so many men fail to understand. Instead of listening to the advice that will get them results, they are too concerned with trying to do everything else at the same time; they want to be popular, they want to be mindless followers, and they want to surround themselves with theories that they don’t need.
These men want to be favored in their respective seduction cults, and they want to be pop stars, so they choose not to pay attention to the actual results. I’m not saying that being more aggressive is going to make you popular, or be fancy, or even get you women that are out of your league. However, what I will say, is that being more aggressive will get you more women, and it will most likely get you more attractive women.
You may be wondering about coming off as needy, overly-aggressive, or approaching too many women, but that’s not what it’s all about. Regardless of how needy, over-aggressive, or pushy you are, the bottom line is that you will get laid more, get more dates, and get more women if you are simply more aggressive. It’s not always pretty or exciting to talk about, but it works.