An archive of the writings of Assanova
Originally posted on: Feb 8th, 2012.
If you’re using one of the older styles of game, then most likely, you’re using obsolete game. It’s probably getting you nowhere, and you’re still trying to figure out why. You continuously fail, so you go back, change a few things, and then fail again. And maybe you’re even doing something that you absolutely hate doing, but do it anyway, because you think that it will get you results.
You are doing it wrong, and what you’re doing is obsolete. It’s not what you should be doing to try to get women. All this time that you’ve been gaming women, hasn’t something felt fundamentally wrong to you? Have you ever approached a girl, and just thought that you hated doing it? Have you ever put yourself in situations where you’ve continuously felt humiliated, dreaded doing the work, or thought that it was wrong, no matter how many guys it has worked for?
You know what? Your instincts were right, and the gamers were wrong. That’s not how you should be going about getting women. In fact, you don’t ever have to approach a girl if it just doesn’t feel right to you. In other words, you shouldn’t be doing anything that you don’t want to do to attract women.
Then what should you be doing? You should be finding what you are good at, what you are passionate about, mastering it, and figuring out how you can use it to get women. You should be telling yourself “I am good at this; I love doing this; I have this going for me” and asking “How do I use it to get women?”. And from there, you should be creating your own personal path to getting women.
The more you begin to think about the answer to those questions, the easier the game will get for you. It’s not as simple as going in a straight line, as obsolete gamers suggest. It’s about making the game be about you, and not about obsolete gamers. When you start to make the game be about you, what you enjoy, and working around what you have going for you, as long as you keep your mind on your end goal, the obstacles will begin to move themselves.