An archive of the writings of Assanova
Originally posted on: Feb 27th, 2012.
I am very much an anti-game guy, but quite a few of you don’t quite understand why. In all of the years that I’ve been dating, there is a very important lesson that I’ve learned: if a woman likes you, then she will make it easy for you. And if women never make it easy for you, then most likely, you’re shooting out of your league, you’re not confident, you’re needy, or your personality is just really bad.
Almost every single girl that is attracted to you, will make it easy for you. She’ll either approach you, give you her full attention if you approach her, hover around you, give you an obvious hint, or make several efforts to get your attention (usually via eye contact). When a girl likes you, she will go out of her way to let you know that she is interested. And if she isn’t, then nothing that you do is going to change her mind. Accept it.
But what if she is just playing hard to get? I’ll let you in on a little something: if a woman is playing hard to get, then she will encourage you to chase her. Women will give you some kind of sign that they are interested, even when they are playing hard to get. They’ll come talk to you after leaving you for awhile, they’ll call you out of nowhere after blowing you off, or they will go on the offensive and start coming after you when they see that you are no longer pursuing them.
A woman that has no interest in you will just break you down and leave it at that, but a woman that is just playing hard to get will build you up when they see that your spirits are broken. That’s the different between the two. Even when a woman that is interested doesn’t make it easy right away, she will make it easy when she sees that you’ve just about given-up, and go out of her way to encourage you some more and build-up your confidence again.
If you think about it, the best thing for you to do when you come across a difficult woman, is to do nothing. If a woman is being difficult and doesn’t encourage you and build-up your confidence when she sees that you’ve given-up, then you’ve just saved yourself some time by not pursing a woman that was never interested in you in the first place. Women know men better than you think, and they know that if they like a guy, then they have to make things easy for him, even when they’re playing hard to get.